Sticks & Stones

September 28, 2010 at 6:00 am 2 comments

“Sticks & stones will break your bones, but names will never hurt me.”

Remember hearing that over and over when you were a kid? Or remember telling that to your kids over and over?

It’s sure a great piece of an advice and way to live. No matter how many times you say that to either someone else or yourself, it never makes it any easier when someone says something that hurts your feelings. After all, we are all humans with crazy emotions. We shouldn’t let the opinion of someone else – whether it be accurate or inaccurate – matter. More importantly, we shouldn’t be offended because of what someone else says or what someone else does. One important reason for this is that by becoming offended, we are letting that person who did the offending, win! That’s what that person wanted and we sure don’t want to do what that person wants us to! Do we? I know I don’t.

I believe I’ve said it before in previous blog posts and I apologize in advance if I have…but, reminders are always good! This life is so wonderful and there is so much beauty in it, that we should not live in or be in a state of unhappiness or misery because of someone else.

Have you ever taken yourself out of the situation and put yourself in the other person’s shoes? Weird concept, I know…putting yourself in the shoes of a person who might have hurt your feelings and offended you…but give it a whirl some day. Just as that person more than likely doesn’t know what you’re going through in life, you do not know what the offender is going through in their life.

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Instead of saying “oh this person has a cold heart, doesn’t care about me, and totally just offended me!” maybe you should ask them to clarify what they just said. Have you thought that maybe you misunderstood what they just said to you? Or that they didn’t see you when they cut you off with their shopping cart at Wal-mart because they were trying to catch up with their child who just wandered off?

You never truly know what a person is going through…unless you ask! Perhaps you do know what a person is going through and your sister just said something that hurt your feelings – and she says it quite often! Have you ever told her that when she says something particular to you that your feeling get hurt and offensive feelings come out to play? I bet you haven’t.

Lets say you have told her before and she continues doing so, without any regards to how you feel. Well then apparently she takes some sort of sick pleasure in making you upset and unhappy…if that’s the case…are you really going to let her ruin your day and take away your happiness from this beautiful life?! I hope not! (After all…sticks & stones, right?)

There’s so many more avenues I can continue going, but I think I’ve reached the most important ones (and am on the verge of possibly not keeping your attention any longer!)

Short & sweet – don’t let the words or actions of someone else offend you or hurt your feelings. Try to understand why they said what they said or did what they did – most of the time it will alleviate any questions and cause your feelings to remain peaceful and happy! If that doesn’t work, don’t let them (or the enemy) win…laugh (figuratively speaking…so you won’t cause any more issues!) in their face, move on, and continue loving life!

Peace & love,

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Sherry  |  September 28, 2010 at 9:42 pm

    Great post! Thank you for the reminder! I try to hold my tongue. My hubby is really good at looking at the other person’s perspective, so he helps me with that. 🙂

  • 2. Katina  |  September 28, 2010 at 9:51 am

    Thanks for visiting Peaceful Divas! Happy Birthday also! Thanks for the reminder about not getting offended! Looking at things from the other person’s perspective is needed but a very hard thing to do when our feelings are hurt! That being said, we are called to do just what you said! You know, pick the plank out of our own eye before the speck in our brothers!! Happy PINT. Thanks for stopping by Peaceful Divas!


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